You realize that you are on a bad spot and guess that more money, health, passion and friends could make your life better.

So, you decide to seek after those things. After all, you won’t be defeated by life. You know what I mean. You work very hard for it and, against the odds, you end up winning a big prize from a mix of luck and effort.

Happiness is just next door, you think. Then, your body starts shivering in fear. Is that it? Is this what lies after the rainbow? What would you do with your life now? What if you fail in this new position of your life? All those paranoid voices are inside of your head and you feel helpless. You can’t seem to get rid of it.

As a last resort, you give up. All the effort you put on it and the hope you had about it is gone. It’s gone for good.

You learned a lot of stuff during this process. It seems to be a good thing, but this haunts you now. It’s like winning ten million dollars and losing nine. You still got your million dollars, but the feeling of the lost nine is massive.

Everything you do now seems to remind you about your lost nine million dollars and you get yourself locked on thoughts about how your life would be if you didn’t lose it.

How do you get out of this?

Well, you need to realize that life still carries on. There is nothing holding you back. You may have lost nine million dollars. But who cares? A lot of people tries really hard and will never have the opportunity to feel this. Not that you should feel better because others are in a worse position than you, but you should notice that you are, in fact, on a really privileged position. You need to be proud of your current realizations.

Life is just a single experience. It’s a single shot that goes really fast. Don’t measure your realizations by the eyes of other people.

There is a powerful TEDx talk that I’ve seen recently: “How to know your life purpose in five minutes” by Adam Leipzig. You can watch a video of the talk at the end of this post.

I will spoil a bit of the content, please watch the talk to get the full idea and drop a nice gratitude message to the author.

Adam Leipzig lists five questions that you should answer to know your life purpose:

  1. Who are you?
  2. What do you do?
  3. To whom do you do it?
  4. What those people want and need?
  5. How do they change as a result of your work?

The first question is really straightforward, it’s just your name, so you are self-aware. The next one is a bit harder, as you need to nail down what you really do and love doing – your passion. The following three questions is about other people and not yourself. That’s interesting: to know your life purpose, you should know more about others than about yourself.

Who are the ones impacted by your work? What they want? How do they change or transform as a result of what you do?

After answering those five questions, when someone asks you what do you do, just use the answer of the fifth question. That’s your personal pitch, it is what you really do. You change and transform other peoples life and experience. That’s your life purpose. It’s your little dent in the universe.

It’s just five questions, but they are tricky to answer, at least for me. There are multiple answers for it. Looks like my life is full of purposes I didn’t realize before:

Dear Adam,

I’m Thiago Borghezan Negri.

I make my family feel loved and supported by giving them my attention and working to provide for them.

I make people’s life better, easier and lighter to carry by making casual games for them to play.

I make people remember good stuff by reviving their memories through experiences they have had with their loved ones.

I present people with good ideas by writing posts like this.

I save people’s time by providing them code and help through this blog and other sites.

I receive some inflamed opinions now and then about my posts, ideas and works, but they won’t bring me down. I do what I do because I believe in it. I may have lost one big pot, but this is life. It is hard, and I’m a big part of making it feel hard. It’s also intriguing and satisfying to discover more about it and about myself!

Here is the talk from Adam Leipzig:


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2 thoughts on “Life is hard, and it’s your fault

  1. Hey Tiago! Awesome post! It is the first time i see your page and i’m sure it isnt the last 😉

    Congratulations for your work!


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